In the early planning stages of your wedding, you will likely register for household basics to outfit your new home. A list of items you prefer is a wonderful tool to help family and friends select a gift they know you would like.
It’s a sensible service to use, particularly if you wedding is large, some of your guests live far away, or you have several pre-wedding parties and showers planned.
You may register in different cities and at a variety of places. Choose items that you will use and that will reflect your lifestyle. Make your selections in various price ranges so guests will be able to find a gift that fits their budget. Once you have made choices in patterns, colors and individual pieces, your selections will be registered in the store’s computer under your name and wedding date, and updated with each purchase.
When you are asked what you would like for a wedding gift, you may reply that you are registered and where. Family and friends may spread the word for you; but it is considered a breach of etiquette to include where you are registered on the wedding invitation. You may want to consider posting a wedding website with the names of stores you are registered and if available, provide links to the stores’ websites.
A trained gift registrar from the store can help you decide on the basics you need, and the extras you want. Selections may include fine china, crystal, silver flatware, informal china, everyday flatware, glassware, serving pieces and accessories, linens, bedding, small appliances, cookware, electronics, or other equipment, and miscellaneous items such as candle sticks, napkin rings, wine racks etc.
Be sure to keep up with your thank you notes as gifts are received. Handwritten notes are still the most gracious form of expression, and should be sent promptly.